Ah, I have not blogged in a very long time. And I am creating a schedule to change this!
Here is 5 Positive Parenting Tools for the Early Years for you to read.
How is it going in your challenge? We have had grandparents from Calgary. As I write this, I hear my children laughing from the basement while engaged in play with grandpa! And then my oldest runs upstairs with his grandpa’s tablet.
Here is some of the games we have come up with today.
Miss K is playing with water and plastic foods. She is moving the cherries from a bowl of water to one with no water. So much learning and fun!
Mr E has a birthday party today and one game we played was pin the eyepatch on the parrot! This was such great fun for kids and adults alike.
I cannot wait to see your adventures today.
Today is World Read Aloud Day! Check out our facebook video with a mostly signed Animal Boogie (Miss K has two ear infections and is not feeling well). At the end of the video, I am inviting you all to join in a 5 Day No/Little Screen Time challenge!
Today, there are 2/3 of 2 years olds use a technology device such as a tablet and close to 50% interact with smart phones. Thank you to our friends at the Speech Language Network for these stats!
Now, giving these stats, YES my 1.5 year old DOES use both the tablet AND will reach for my smart phone. Hmm, what can I do differently? What can I do to help promote more parent interaction time? More creativity? More opportunities for play and exploration.
In Positive Discipline Parenting we encourage parents to be proactive with a young child’s screen time. I will be sharing ways that we can use Connection before Correction as we limit screen time in the next 5 days PLUS each day I will show you various activities we are doing together and separately.
Here are a few of our activities that we engaged with today instead of playtime. As I write this blog, Miss K is sleeping and Mr E is playing bounce the balloon!
Here is Mr E showing Miss K how to put in the fish for this game. This was all child-led play. Mr. E found the game and wanted to show Miss K how to play. I enjoyed watching this activity as I did not have to engage in play and the brain and physical development that was taking place. This is a great way to strengthen concepts such as in/out, how things fit, and categories such as colours and big/little.
We took time to look and smell roses! What a great time to connect and share a common experience.
Here Miss K is stacking containers. She loves to play with nesting toys.
What is Connection Before Correction?
Connection is the foundation for all Positive Discipline Tools! You, as the parent, you can moderate and even set limits around screen time. When children feel closely connected they are more likely to go along with limits what you set (Kind AND Firm).
Create a connection with your child by finding as many opportunities as you can to stay close – physically and emotionally.
AND we are off!
-Create Connection by Paying Attention
-Create Connection by Listening
-Create Connection with lots of Hugs
-Create Connection with Special Time
Tomorrow, I will be sharing brain development and the power of routines!
With you in Parenting,
Tanya Myrfield-Wolfe BSW, RSW, Certified Baby Sign Instructor & Positive Discipline Educator
Join Tanya with Little Hands and Me Parenting Network for a 30 minute Valentine’s Day Baby Sign Information Workshop for expecting & parents with babies under 8 months of age.
Together, we will explore:
-How to start signing
-Learn Valentine’s Day Songs
-Learn useful first signs signs through play, music, and movement!
And most importantly, answer your signs about baby sign language!
This class will also discuss the benefits of baby sign language and the Canadian Award Winning Parenting Tested Parent Approved “My Smart Hands” program!
Families MUST register to attend.
To register: Please e-mail or message Tanya at firstname.lastname@example.org
The cost of the Bee My Valentine Workshop is ONLY $5 and all proceeds will be given to the Heart & Stroke Foundation or credited towards a registration of a future baby sign class.
In many of our Positive Discipline Parenting classes, we have parents with toddlers and young preschoolers! I find that parents love the tool of “Small Steps”.
This tool can be used even with an older baby. Lets use the example of an older baby of 10 months of age. This child can help out and learn small steps! When coming home from grocery shopping, we can ask the child, ” We need to put away the diapers and wipes. Let’s pick up the wipe container. Now, mom will pick up the diaper box. Where do the diapers go?” This question helps to build problem solving skills and allowing a child to think about sequences. Next mom could say, “Yes! The diapers go into your closet. Let’s walk down the hall way, and into your room”.
Helping a child learn small steps will convey the message, “I have faith, we/you can figure this task out [together]”.
This week’s challenge is to stop doing things for your child that they can do for themselves. This also means taking time for practice, practice, practice! A great way to start with younger toddlers is to get their own boots on!
Growing Together*Positive Connection*Child Development
Often, parents hear the “main” benefit of signing to their little one. This is that they are able to communicate at an early age! This is amazing, wonderful and very real. However, this is not the only benefit of baby sign language. Parents and their little ones can experience so much more in a My Smart Hands baby sign language with Little Hands & Me Parenting Network!
- Benefits of Baby Sign Language:
- Promotes language development with “late talkers”
- Helps to reduce frustrations and tantrums-Increases parent/child interactions
- Studies have shown signing can help with pre-literacy skills
- Child can express interests at an earlier age
- Allows baby to communicate needs and wants
- Promotes creativity
- Promotes early communication skills
- Older toddlers can use signing to problem solve
Registration is NOW on for November classes with Little Hands & Me Parenting Network!
To register for an upcoming baby sign, sensory or Positive Discipline class:
In this video, I am showing how a family can start to incorporate baby sign language as they feed their little. Kaila and I are practicing ASL signs for: “more”, “avocado”, and “all-done”.
Parents, often, find that using signs during meal time to be very motivational for their little. This is because soon their little will be able to use signs to communicate basic needs such as “all-done/finished”, “more”, “food” and even specify another food they want to “eat”! Most littles first few signs are often food related as these are very motivational!
Positive Discipline is based on the Adlerian Psychology, this is the work of Alfred Adler and his colleague Rudolf Dreikurs. Adler believed that human behaviour is motivated by a need of belonging (connection) and worth (significance).
Discipline is designed to help children learn from what they have done. In fact, the root of education is educarè which means to draw forth.
The early years with children has to do with their emotional, physical and cognitive development as well as age-appropriate behaviours more than their misbehaviours. In a child’s early years, birth to age 3-5, a little one needs nonpunitive discipline which enhances their whole development and creates a connection.
What does this mean?! Well, discipline with young children is more about deciding what you, as a parent/caregiver, will do and then following through. This is the concept of being kind AND firm as Positive Discipline is neither permissive or punitive.
During the first year of life, a child depends on you for everything. However, quickly a child will find their voice and personality and will start to assert themselves as being a separate person. This is a great time to find ways to engage your child in decisions (always age-appropriate!). Even parents of older babies and toddlers can start using the Positive Discipline tool of “Curiosity questions”. For example: when unpacking groceries you can ask a baby, “where do we put your diapers?”, or during bedtime routine inquire, “Which book do you want to read?”.
Another Positive Discipline Tool that can be introduced early in life is offering Acceptable Choices. Every person has an internal locus of power and having choices provides a child a sense of power (autonomy): they have the power to choose one possibility or another. A lot of parents struggle with toys and tidiness therefore, we will use this as an example of acceptable choices for a child aged 2-5 (who based on child development will likely need help or guidance). We can provide acceptable choices, “I will help you clean up your toys! Which ones do you want me to clean up and which ones do you want to clean up?”. The choices, of course, have to be what you as the parent/caregiver can live with! This point goes back to Positive Discipline being kind AND firm! Decide what you will do and then follow through!
Resources used for this blog: Positive Discipline A-Z and Positive Discipline: the First Three Years
Baby sign language is a tool of communication that you can give to your pre-verbal baby. Babies begin to gesture at a fairly early age; putting their hands in the air to be picked up, pointing at things they want etc. They quickly learn that these movements will elicit a reaction from his/her parents.
Taking that natural gesturing to the next level, parents have started to teach their children specific signs that they can use to communicate their needs.
Most people use signs taken from a real sign language such as ASL in North America. By using ASL signs with babies you are not teaching them the actual language, you are simply using the exact sign for the exact English word.