We were driving with Miss K snug in her car seat. She was crying and screaming for her dad.
What I saw was a 2 year old who was having a tantrum for one parent. This parent was with her brother at a medical appointment.
So, I turned up the music. After all, she will settle to the rhythm… right? OH NO!! She reacted and screamed even more louder.
I realized that it was time to pull out a Positive Discipline tool or two!
Me: Wow, K! You are feeling really upset that dad is not here.
K: sniff… yah… upset.
Me: And maybe you’re confused by what is happening?
Me: Dad went to your brother’s appointment and you are with me to buy printer paper. When we are done then we will see dad!
This ended up being an enjoyable shopping trip where Miss K helped to find: printer paper, the shortest line and even agreed to stop for a cup of joe! We were back to her dad afterwards and a crisis was avoided!
What Positive Discipline Parenting Tools were used?
-Validation of Feelings
-When/Then Statements (As soon as)
-Belonging and Significance (the primary goal of humans according to Adlerian Psychology)