Positive Discipline is based on the Adlerian Psychology, this is the work of Alfred Adler and his colleague Rudolf Dreikurs. Adler believed that human behaviour is motivated by a need of belonging (connection) and worth (significance).
Discipline is designed to help children learn from what they have done. In fact, the root of education is educarè which means to draw forth.
The early years with children has to do with their emotional, physical and cognitive development as well as age-appropriate behaviours more than their misbehaviours. In a child’s early years, birth to age 3-5, a little one needs nonpunitive discipline which enhances their whole development and creates a connection.
What does this mean?! Well, discipline with young children is more about deciding what you, as a parent/caregiver, will do and then following through. This is the concept of being kind AND firm as Positive Discipline is neither permissive or punitive.
During the first year of life, a child depends on you for everything. However, quickly a child will find their voice and personality and will start to assert themselves as being a separate person. This is a great time to find ways to engage your child in decisions (always age-appropriate!). Even parents of older babies and toddlers can start using the Positive Discipline tool of “Curiosity questions”. For example: when unpacking groceries you can ask a baby, “where do we put your diapers?”, or during bedtime routine inquire, “Which book do you want to read?”.
Another Positive Discipline Tool that can be introduced early in life is offering Acceptable Choices. Every person has an internal locus of power and having choices provides a child a sense of power (autonomy): they have the power to choose one possibility or another. A lot of parents struggle with toys and tidiness therefore, we will use this as an example of acceptable choices for a child aged 2-5 (who based on child development will likely need help or guidance). We can provide acceptable choices, “I will help you clean up your toys! Which ones do you want me to clean up and which ones do you want to clean up?”. The choices, of course, have to be what you as the parent/caregiver can live with! This point goes back to Positive Discipline being kind AND firm! Decide what you will do and then follow through!
Resources used for this blog: Positive Discipline A-Z and Positive Discipline: the First Three Years
Baby sign language is a tool of communication that you can give to your pre-verbal baby. Babies begin to gesture at a fairly early age; putting their hands in the air to be picked up, pointing at things they want etc. They quickly learn that these movements will elicit a reaction from his/her parents.
Taking that natural gesturing to the next level, parents have started to teach their children specific signs that they can use to communicate their needs.
Most people use signs taken from a real sign language such as ASL in North America. By using ASL signs with babies you are not teaching them the actual language, you are simply using the exact sign for the exact English word.
A little needs to hear a word 200 times before verbally expressing the concept. However, when using Baby Sign Language (ASL signs) a child is comprehending a single word using both their visual and auditory ways of learning! Research, over 28 years worth, shows that ASL signs supports verbal English!
Plus, using Baby Sign Language allows for a child to express themselves much earlier as they can use their signs to communicate. They are feeling less frustrations as they have empowerment over their environment!
Our Mid-Fall classes schedule has just been announced and registration is ongoing!
9:00-10:15am – Positive Discipline Parenting Starting November 8
10:30-11:20am – Level I Baby Sign Starting November 1
11:30-12:20pm – Level II Baby Sign Starting November 15
1:00-1:50pm – Level I Baby Sign Starting November 1
1-1:30pm – Quiet Crickets (Preschool 3-5 year old) Starting November 3
1:45-3:00pm – Positive Discipline Parenting Class Starting November 3
3:15-3:55pm – Wiggly Worms (Whole Child Developmental class for 10+ months) Starting November 3
|Join Little Hands and Me Parenting Network for FALL baby sign language classes. We use the Canadian Parent Tested Parent Approved Award winning My Smart Hands program!
We learn ASL signs in a unique multi sensory environment which focuses on whole child development.
In a playful, educational and language-rich environment; parents and children will build their American Sign Language (ASL) vocabulary through whole child development activities: sensory bins and bottles, puppets, shakers, flannel board stories, music, movement and so much more.
There is a new topic each week including: alphabet, everyday words, family, food, animals, emotions, opposites, bed time and play signs.
Fore more information:
Registration is now open for Baby Sign Language in Saskatoon! Join us for Level I or Level II starting in September. We offer small class sizes and space is filling up!
Benefits of Baby Sign Language:
• Helps Reduce Frustrations and Tantrums
• Increases Parent/Child Interactions
• Allows Baby to Communicate
• Kick Starts Creativity
• Empowers Child & Their Families
• Children Express Interests Earlier
• Promotes Early Communication Skills
• Older Toddlers use Signing to Solve Problems
*Classes are small in size and spaces is limited. Register today to avoid disappointment.
We received “Stones For Learning” from RS Stones. I am in love with this product as it is from a Canadian Stone Hand Carver in Mission BC.
These rocks are in three shapes: circle, square and triangle.
Young babies are able to touch the stones and feel the differences in temperatures and observe new colours. Parents are able to move the stones back and forth, right and left, up and down to help faciliate brain development and eye movement. Combine these with Baby Sign Language signs such as: look, feel/touch, right/left, up/down and whole child development is happening!
These three shapes are perfect for allowing even older babies/young toddlers to start identifying shapes Our 4 year old loved to play and string them with a pipecleaner. They also vary in colour as these are all natural products. Other learning that happens with these stones are learning: patterns, shapes, sequencing, counting and basic math.
Below is a youtube video of us signing and playing with these amazing “Stones For Learning” from RS Arts.
Here is a link to RS Arts facebook group. Pop on over and see his other creations or order these stones sets.
Are you open to learning something new about raising children? Do you want to learn in a fun way?
If so, join us for a 6 week session designed to give parents the opportunity to learn the underlying motivations of children’s behavior and the role you play in influencing behavior.
Have fun while learning new discipline tools to build your child’s self-esteem, self-discipline, problem solving, and essential life skills that will last their life time.
Learn a fun and interactive approach to help your Lovebug to develop self-discipline, responsibility, cooperation and problem-solving skills! Positive Discipline believes that “Children DO better when they FEEL better – when they can access their rational brains!”
Join us for a 6 week Firefly Positive Discipline class starting in September:
Positive Discipline Parenting focuses on 5 criteria:
1) Kind AND Firm at the same time
2) Helps children feel a sense of belonging and significance
3) Teaches social and life skills
4) Invites children to discover they are capable and to use their power constructively.
5) Is effective long term
Make signing with your love bug fun and look for teachable moments!
Signing should be fun! Do not worry about carving time out of your day to sit down and sign with your little. Rather signing can be used throughout your day in natural and fun ways!
In our Level II class we used 5 little yellow ducks felt board to learn “emotion” signs in a fun way! Each duck had their own feeling when “momma duck” said quack quack quack, “how do you feel when you play like that?”. The Love Bugs had so much fun playing and exploring these felt board play items together as a group while the moms signed and said the poem!
Examples can be when your child is feeling hungry ask them if they want “food” or “milk”. Once you asked your little if they want “milk” then give then their need. This will also help encourage signing and empowerment over their environment.